Mental Illness does not define you as a parent.
Parenting through mental illness can be difficult. It can alter how we view ourselves as parents. In the darkest days, we think of ourselves failures, unworthy of loving, and providing for our children. It can become overwhelming with the chaos the pain, as it blinds our ability to see the truth. Above all, the truth that you are not a bad parent.
You are not:
You were not a failure when there was no energy to grocery shop, and cereal is for dinner.
You were not weak when you sobbed in the shower over fears of wanting to run away.
You were not useless when crowds become overwhelming, and you’ve missed school functions.
You were not unworthy when days went by before you replied to their text messages.
You were not inadequate when social media is bare of pictures of adventures.
You were not damaged when all the sounds around suffocate your mind, and you want to scream.
You were not horrible when each touch, tug, and pull of your body sends an irritating sensation all over.
Mental illness strips away the ability to see the radiant power that you hold. It can take away the capacity to know the worth of your life and presence. Mental illness does not define you as a parent. You are more than the moments of suffering. You have continued to fight each day, to love yourself and your children. It is human nature to falter. As parents, we teach our children the importance of endurance: never to give up. Therefore, don’t give up on yourself.
Remember what you are:
You are a force of endurance.
You are a beacon of possibilities
You are a temple of courage.
You are a collection of stories.
You are a moment worth holding.
You are a warrior of resurrection.
You are, most of all, worthy of unconditional love.
Please note that if you have a mental illness, and are having a hard time coping, please seek help. Click here for the Top HelpLine Resources.